Throughout my life so far I have met many different types of people. I have made many friends, from many places, and I’ve learned a lot about life in the process.
Recently, I’ve had a lot of conversations with some of my friends about expectations in friendships. One thing that I’ve had to learn recently is that we have different friends for different reasons. Maybe one friend is better to go to with emotional problems, one better for a good time, one perfect for going out with, but its impossible for one friend to meet all of these expectations at once.
The issue arises when we expect all of our friends to give us the same thing. Personally, I have friends that I know will always be there for me when I have a legitimate problem whether it be in regards to school, relationships, friendships or anything at all, where I am looking for realistic and honest advice and comfort. Then I have certain friends where I would never go to them for advice because they don’t have the type of personality that would be able to help me.
It doesn’t mean that one friend is better than the other. Sometimes it simple means knowing what your the strengths of your friends are when it comes to your relationship and accepting that.
This is definitely something you learn as you grow and meet different types people. Personally, as someone who has an abundance of long-distance friendships, I know that communicating is the only way that I can personally maintain them. I sometimes feel like I’m putting in a lot more than the other person but I also know that your relationship with your friends changes with distance. It isn’t realistic to think that they will be there for you in the same way that they once were when distance wasn’t a factor.
It can be a horrible feeling to know that your relationships will change over time. But looking back now, at the friendships and relationships that I’ve had throughout my life, I know that I had all the friends that I did at certain times in my life for a reason. It’s important to remember that friends don’t always have to be forever, but you shouldn’t discredit the past because everyone you meet in your life has given you a push to get to where you are now.
It’s important to appreciate your friends, know their purpose, always remember that not everyone can give you what you want, and to approach your friendships with realistic expectations. At the end of the day, we have friends to teach us lessons, show us things that we may not have seen before and to help us grow as people. We will all have many different types of friends throughout our lives and when we realize that they all have their own purpose, we will all be a lot more satisfied with the relationships that we have.