It’s funny, there seems to be this stereotype in society that women are these overemotional, over dramatic creatures and that we can’t handle high stress situations without breaking down, crying, or having our world end.
Now, I will admit, I am a super emotional person. But that’s just me. I have plenty of girlfriends who aren’t particularly emotional people, and that’s absolutely fine.
However, an issue arises when you are expected to be so emotional, that you start to hold back your emotions, scared of being seen as weak, and in turn, that being a synonym for being female.
I found myself in a situation this past week with a friend of mine. I felt like I was being walked on and taken advantage of because I had given so many chances to this individual to fix their actions but continued to give them my attention. After asking them to not do X, Y and Z, I came up with a simple message to relay how I was feeling:
“I’m not being a high maintenance ‘girl’, I am just a human being and I do not deserve to be treated this way.”
Now, maybe you’re thinking, that’s a bit dramatic.
But is it dramatic? Or is it just the truth?
I finally have come to a place mentally where I know how I, along with every other human being deserves to be treated. It doesn’t matter if you identify as a woman or a man or anything else, you don’t deserve to be treated badly by anyone. Giving other people so much power over you will make you feel so small and before you know it, you’re left feeling like you have no choice at all in your life, like you deserve whatever treatment you are getting.
But that’s not the way it’s supposed to be. We aren’t supposed to let guys or girls or anyone make us feel insignificant or disposable, that isn’t normal!
Society enforces this idea that women are supposed to let men treat them poorly, that is, along as they treat them in some kind of positive way afterwards and I can’t help but disagree.You shouldn’t have to deal with being treated poorly EVER. It can be hard when your emotions are involved with someone to take yourself out of the situation and say, “This is not how I deserve to be treated”, but if you don’t, who will?
It’s like that friend you have who is in that terrible relationship or cycle with someone. You can see how toxic it is, and you can tell them that a thousand times, but that person will do whatever they want at the end of the day because it’s hard to escape it and let it go. Every situation is different, but at the end of the day we’re all human and if that doesn’t bind us, what will?
When you learn how to take charge of your own life, and not let other people dictate and control your happiness, that’s when you’ll feel at peace with it all. It’s important to recognize that you are worth more than what other people decide, because you decide how you live your life and how you are treated, no one else.